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Q;What can I do when my husband says I'm his property and he can do whatever he wants with me?

Q: My husband beats me and ill-treats me. My parents tried to talk to him but he says as soon as he tied the mangal sutra around my neck, I became his property and my parents have no right to  intervene in our affairs. What should I do?

Q: If I marry my girlfriend will she become my property?

K: What rubbish?! Properties are meant to be used but a wife is to be loved.
A human being can never be another person's property. You don't own your wife.  Nobody owns anybody. The meaning of the term property is usually associated with the man having certain "perceived rights” to that woman.
If you marry a girl/woman she becomes "your wife", not your slave.
The rest of the things in a relationship depend on other equations.
Like what she feels about you, how you treat her, how much you both love each other, how well you can understand her mind and she yours, how well you can respond to her feelings and needs, 
your parents and other family members' treatment of her, how financially and emotionally independent she is,  your children and their well being and several other things.
If you try to treat your wife as 'your property', she cannot love you as she should.

Men see a women as their property when their personality is overlapped by high level of their love for their women (possessive LOVE )

Men see their women as their property when personality of their women gets overpowered by their men’s personality due to many facts (immaturity of both)

Men see women as their property when men force their desire and will on their women.

Men see women as their property if they  have psychological problems. 

Men see women as their property if their thinking is ancient.

In the stone age cultures women were sold and bought like cattle in some places. 

The very thoughts like "mine"  and 'my' lead to all sorts of problems and troubles. Egos, possessiveness, unusual expectations, neglect, ill treatment and what not.
Try to respect a woman's individuality. Give her love and understanding. Then she herself will give  her everything to you. Don't demand things in a relationship. Gain them with your love and good conduct for them to last forever. 

Women, when it comes to your partner treating you as their property, there are many signs that you should pay attention to. Here are some of them:

  • He controls, or attempts to control your resources. This includes your money, your time, your body, and your personal space. Specific examples may include:
    • Attempting to limit the time you spend with your friends and/or family
    • Monitoring where you go and with whom
    • Breaking into your personal devices, putting tracking software on your phone
    • Demanding to know your passwords (and usually not willing to share his)
    • Expecting detailed accounts of what you did, when, and with whom; frequent interrogations
    • Telling you how to spend your money, or outright taking money away from you. Keeping you on a strictly controlled and limited budget and being the sole decision maker about where/how the family budget is spent
    • Telling you how to dress, what body modifications to engage in (ex:  hair removal, etc). This may or may not include paying for this himself as a way to pressure you into doing what he wants
    • Telling you that you wear too much/not enough makeup
    • Pressuring you into sexual acts and behaviors that you are uncomfortable with, and disregarding informed, enthusiastic consent. This can verge on, or become, sexual abuse
    • Disregarding your own needs
    • Taking  photos/videos of you without your permission, and/or pressuring you into taking them. This may include sharing them with his friends or in online spaces
  • He ignores your personal boundaries, your yes/no, and becomes enraged/sulky/cold/harsh/critical when you do something that he disagrees with, or perceives as displeasing
  • He exhibits strong feelings of ownership and jealousy over you, especially with regards to your exes or current male friends. Often he will attempt to forbid you to have contact with them, and will demand that you drop your male friends, or any other people in your circle he deems as a bad influence
  • He will use devaluing, dehumanizing language when talking to you, or when discussing you with others. This can include cursing, calling you “stupid”, “retarded”, “a whore”, “lazy”, “a smartass”, telling you to shut up, and much, much more
  • Sharing things with others that you told him in private, or that you expect to be private (like the details of your sex life, or other personal information). Using this information to shame, guilt, scare or manipulate you
  • Acting like the injured party/victim, telling you how much he has done for you and how you “should be nicer to him” because of that, or how much you “owe” him, or that it’s your “duty” as his GF/wife to do what he wants for him, regardless of your own desires

Husbands who treat their wives as their property are controlling abusers. Women, You are not anyone’s property, and no one has the right to treat you in any way other than you wish to be treated. You have the right and freedom to do as you choose.

If a husband thinks in this way in modern times, it is time to dump him without a second thought. 

JUST - DUMP - HIM!

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