I found my way to be  happy. You too can find yours, if you try!

Q: One of the things people tell us these days is to increase social connectivity to be happy. However, I see only selfish people all around that don't make me happy at all. How can we be happy in such environments?

Krishna: I can fully understand your distress.  

On social media you find toxic people who troll, abuse,  bully and do what not if you don't dance to their tunes. Not all will be like this but these days most of them are like that on social media sites visited by common people.

You will find relatives who are mostly self-centred and want you to 'like', 'upvote' and 'praise' all the pics and posts they share. Narcissism! Or they want you to visit them always,  help them, treat them - if you can't do that you will be unofficially banned from their circles! They also see your economical, powerful statuses to get close to you. 

Friends are a bit better because you can choose them but they might not 'chose you' to get close to you.

Neighbours will be good to you as long as you don't complain about their dumping thrash in front of your home! 

These are the things people who usually complain these days. 

Naturally people feel the hollowness of friendships and relationships.

But each person is different. 

So if you try to be good, some good people might react in a positive way. And you can form a bond with them. 

If you try to help others, they might feel different about you, and think you are different and special and might get closer to you.

And then why don't you talk with your relatives and friends  and tell them that their behaviour is making you uncomfortable? Selfish people spend most of their time thinking about themselves, and hardly the feelings of others. If you speak directly about how their selfishness makes you feel, it will be a chance to get through to them about their negative behaviour.  If your friend/relative values your role in their life, they should agree to start making some changes. If they don't, just leave them. 

Try to listen to what they have to say too. If you are respectful and kind while talking, most likely your friend will offer an apology or give some reasons about why she has been selfish. Make sure to listen closely to the reasons that your friend gives, and try to understand how he or she is feeling.

But stop being a doormat. Many people behave in selfish ways because other people let it happen. If a person asks for excessive favours or talks about herself/himself without stopping, stop the behaviour right away. Don’t allow the person to walk all over you.

If a selfish person treats you poorly, it’s not because you’re not worth being treated well. Selfish people ignore their friends or neglect their obligations because they only think of themselves, and this has nothing to do you or your value as a person. So don't get distressed. 

If the person’s behaviour is truly intolerable, take a break from being around them. Selfish behaviour is draining to those on the receiving end, and you deserve better. Whether it’s just one day alone or a whole week without seeing them, spend some time to yourself.