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This is your life : live it in the way you want!

Q: Why should we accept others' terms of happiness and fulfillment of life?

Krishna: Exactly! It is your life. Write your own definitions of happiness. And live accordingly.

Daily I get several messages on social media saying so many things. I get annoyed and send the sharers my own definitions. This looks like arguing but my point is - there can be several views, and ways to live a life. Why should I live in the way you want me to? Or does society want me to?

Extroverts live in one way- by partying, socialising and thinking they are living a happy life.

Introverts like another way of living.

How can extraverts say introverts are not enjoying their life in the right way? Who are they to decide things for everyone around?

Some writers too, I have observed, say things they think are right. And refuse to accept other views as right ones too.

This is shallow thinking. Everybody has the right to have their own definitions of life, happiness and enjoyment.

If you think only yours is right and others views are wrong, that shows your narrow mindedness.

This is your life. Live it in the way you want. Forget about others' ways.

Forget about rules the society imposes on you.

As long as you are not harming others, your way is right too!

Subka sun-na, apna karna. Do things your way!

You have just one life. Enjoy it in the way you want. You have every right to do that.

Q: I am an introvert (iv). My folks say by being an iv , I am losing enjoyment and love in life. However, I don't feel anything like that. Why is this?

Krishna: I am an introvert too. I too don't feel I am losing something because of this. I enjoy my life in my own way. Why should we abide by others' rules and think we are not doing things in the right way?

Our definitions of enjoyment are different. If people cannot understand this it is their headache ,not ours.

Don't worry, you are not losing anything by being an iv.

Those who have experienced 'universal love' will never crave for an individual's love. Or the love of a few people. This universal love makes you raise above all and unique. It makes you very strong!

This is a reply given by a NUN to a person who asked her this Q:

Why do Catholic nuns and sisters subject themselves to such a bleak, joyless existence?

Nun: Anyone who's seen me around my Church over the past few years would doubtless agree that I may be many things, but bleak and joyless is not among them.

I am full of life, happiness, and satisfaction, perhaps not according to your definition but according to my own interpretation of life.

If you cannot understand this simple logic, I feel sorry for you!

Don't judge anyone by things he or she does because you do not know their full story.

Well said, sister!

Q: I am a girl and have no confidence to live my life in the way I want to. I always listen to others because I am worried they would hurt me if I don't listen to them. How can I be like you?

Krishna: First free yourself from emotional dependence.

Praises and back pats give you temporary satisfaction, not a permanent one.

Only confidence, strength, your own satisfaction give you happiness.

That doesn't come from emotional attachments.

Tell yourself you can live without others' approvals and compliments. And others' help.

Try to be independent, economically also. This gives you strength.

Others' words would hurt you only if you care about them. They won't hurt you if you detach yourself from them.

This is a bit difficult to do but not impossible. Try it slowly. You will be able to succeed as time goes by.

This is your life. Don't put the controls in others' hands.

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Q: Do terminally ill people have sex lives?

Krishna: I want to tell my friend’s story. She told me she was just 17 when she fell in love with a 35 year old man. Her parents refused to accept the man because he wasn’t as rich as they ‘re. She ran away with him but they caught her, brought her back, got her married to another man. She immigrated to Canada.

She also helped her boy friend immigrate to that country and was in touch with him. She had given birth to a son with her husband. Then she was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumour when she was 30. She lost most of her sight, paralysed on one side of her body, she couldn’t even walk properly. She just had a few days of life left.

Don’t know what happened but she divorced her husband and married her boy friend. It was their love and wish.

Then she became pregnant with twins. Within one month of giving birth to her twins, she died. The pregnancy speeded up her death.

I was distressed but didn’t say anything. It was their life. They had every right to live it in the way they wanted . Who am I to say anything?

Sometimes you feel bad about a few things but have no right in interfering in others’ lives. Their decisions are theirs.

Her husband disappeared after that. Don’t know what happened to her first son and her twins.

She remains in my thoughts. So do her children.

Unusual feelings and helpless situations. Just respect their privacy, that is all you can do. Strange!

This is your life : live it in the way you want!

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