General Topics Discussions - SCI-ART LAB2024-03-29T08:20:58Zhttps://kkartlab.in/groups/group/forum?groupUrl=general-topics&feed=yes&xn_auth=noDo you think you are alone? NO! That is an illusion!tag:kkartlab.in,2024-03-18:2816864:Topic:2521942024-03-18T03:26:47.377ZDr. Krishna Kumari Challahttps://kkartlab.in/profile/DrKrishnaKumariChalla
<div><font color="#000000">Q: <span>Being alone saddens me, but being around people makes me tired. What can I do?</span></font></div>
<p>Q: Being alone makes me unhappy. What should I do?</p>
<p>Krishna: I find this strange.</p>
<p>Do you think you are alone? NO! That is an illusion!</p>
<p>I definitely am not alone . Do you know there are billions, no trillions, of bacteria inside and on your body?</p>
<p>Thoroughly revised estimates show that the typical adult human body consists of about 30…</p>
<div><font color="#000000">Q: <span>Being alone saddens me, but being around people makes me tired. What can I do?</span></font></div>
<p>Q: Being alone makes me unhappy. What should I do?</p>
<p>Krishna: I find this strange.</p>
<p>Do you think you are alone? NO! That is an illusion!</p>
<p>I definitely am not alone . Do you know there are billions, no trillions, of bacteria inside and on your body?</p>
<p>Thoroughly revised estimates show that the typical adult human body consists of about 30 trillion human cells and about 38 trillion bacteria(1). And that is just bacteria. There can be other microbes too. They all call your body their home!</p>
<p>Just because you cannot see them with your naked eyes, do you think you are alone?</p>
<p>And there are several birds on the plants growing in the pots on my balcony ( I prefer to use "in the balcony" as it is a closed one now).</p>
<p>Of Course there are plants - they too are living!</p>
<p>Then there are snails and insects in the soil of pots.</p>
<p>With so many creatures keeping us company, how can I (or you) say I am (you are) alone?</p>
<p>coming to your Q,</p>
<p>“In order to be open to creativity, one must have the capacity for constructive use of solitude. One must overcome the fear of being alone.”<b><span> </span>- Rollo May</b></p>
<p>Feeling lonely really depends on the personality of the lonely being. There are people who enjoy loneliness and make use of it in positive and creative ways and there are people who wail in self pity. I belong to the first category and have absolutely no complaints about my solitude. Who says loneliness is boring? It is fun and highly productive. I enjoy every moment of it. It strengthened my mind, made me very independent, highly confident and creative and is the reason why I succeeded so much in life (2).</p>
<p>So try to be creative, productive and do the things that you like the most. you will never feel loneliness at all. It doesn’t make you sad if you are utilizing your time purposefully.</p>
<p>Footnotes:</p>
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<li><a>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4991899/#:~:text=Thoroughly%20revised%20estimates%20show%20that,and%20about%2038%20trillion%20bacteria.</a></li>
<li><a href="https://kkartlab.in/group/some-science/forum/topics/my-creativity-needs-total-isolation-it-is-perfectly-alright-to-ha" target="_blank" rel="noopener">My creativity needs total isolation. It is perfectly alright to have that preference says science!</a></li>
</ol> Why people can't mend their mistakestag:kkartlab.in,2024-03-15:2816864:Topic:2522722024-03-15T05:47:43.494ZDr. Krishna Kumari Challahttps://kkartlab.in/profile/DrKrishnaKumariChalla
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<div>Q: <span><font color="#000000">Why don't people accept their faults? Even if they made any mistakes, why can't they just accept it?</font></span></div>
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<div>Q: How should we deal with people who don't accept their mistakes?</div>
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<div>Q: <span><font color="#000000">Why don't people accept their faults? Even if they made any mistakes, why can't they just accept it?</font></span></div>
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<div>Q: How should we deal with people who don't accept their mistakes?</div>
<div>Krishna: <a href="https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/incorrigible"><strong>Incorrigible</strong></a> <span>is the word: incapable of being corrected or amended.</span></div>
<p>In context, the word usually implies that the person doesn't respond well to criticism or admit fault.</p>
<h2 class="gmail-blog-entry__subtitle--full"><span style="font-size: 10pt;">Psychological rigidity is not a sign of strength.</span></h2>
<div>But still, n<span>o one enjoys being wrong or told that they are at fault. It’s an unpleasant emotional experience for them.</span></div>
<div>The first step for solving a problem is to accept that there is one.</div>
<div><span>However, some people are never to blame for anything - at least according to them. Their attitude is rather like that of young children who, when they’re caught doing something they shouldn’t, point the finger at someone else.</span></div>
<div>According to psychologists, <span>those adults who can't assume responsibility for their mistakes </span><span>have an immature personality</span><span>. Their go-to strategy for coping with life is “probably based on fear of having to assume the consequences of their own actions".</span></div>
<div><span>While some people know deep down they are at fault, many who act in this way genuinely believe that it is everyone else who is the problem. Such people “tend to see themselves as neutral spectators of life, or as victims of everything and everyone, without any personal influence on events.</span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><span>Other people don't own their mistakes because they are under some delusion that they can't make mistakes because they are very good.</span></div>
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<div><span>Most others want to escape the consequences of accepting their faults. </span></div>
<div><span>Some people refuse to admit they’re wrong, even in the face of overwhelming evidence, due to a fragile ego.</span><span> </span></div>
<div><span>Some, on the other hand, don't accept accusations because others can't fully understand their view and therefore misunderstand them. This is a minority community and even if you think these people make mistakes, it is your understanding that is at fault, not them!</span></div>
<div><span>Good people themselves realize and understand when they make mistakes. They accept them with humility, analyse thoroughly the situations that led to these errors and try to correct themselves. They know what is right and what is wrong. Even if they miss some points, if you just point them out to them, they immediately accept them and get corrected.</span></div>
<div><span>People who are under illusions and delusions cannot analyse the inputs and situations properly, come under the influence of biases, and try to put the blame on others. They also vehemently deny that they made any mistake.</span></div>
<div><span>If one cannot psychologically handle being wrong, they may deny facts to defend their actions or beliefs.</span></div>
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<div><strong>Nonchalant</strong><br/> <span>: having an air of easy unconcern or indifference about teh societal norms.</span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><strong>Arrogant</strong><br/> <span>: showing an offensive attitude of superiority and thinking that a superior person can never be at fault!</span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><strong>Unrepentant</strong><span> (not exhibiting shame or remorse) human beings never accept their mistakes even if they are grave ones like committing murders.</span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><div><span>What about when a person does push back against the facts, when they simply cannot admit they were wrong in any circumstance? What is it in their psychological makeup that makes it impossible for them to admit they were wrong, even when it is obvious they were? And why does this happen so repetitively—why do they</span><span> </span><em>never</em><span> </span><span>admit they were wrong?</span></div>
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<p>The answer is related to their ego; their very sense of self.</p>
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<div><span>There is no use telling such people that they are at fault. You won't find any positive results from doing that.</span></div>
<div><span><font color="#000000">Try to make distance with them. They are toxic in a way .. people think they can change this kind of person but no you can't. Maintaining distance is the greatest thing. Whatever they say just don't give importance or you can try to record proves but I'm pretty sure they will manipulate the truth again by saying something unreasonable.</font></span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><span><font color="#000000">Some even try to gaslight you!</font></span></div>
<div><span><font color="#000000">I will give an example and this is my own experience. A few days back some of the people who live upstairs to our flat, were doing some work on their balcony. They were installing grills on the parapet wall. The iron smith was soldering the grills on the parapet wall. The solder splatter was falling down in my balcony ( I used 'in ' because it is covered with iron grills and looked like a room, not exactly an open space). Not one or two sparks but a whole lot of them, it was like fire spitting from a pipeline. I hung clothes in the balcony, a plastic sheet is covering the room of the grill, there are several plants in pots - anything could have caught fire. I went up to complain. Then a lady came and when I told her what was happening, she vehemently denied that those sparks were falling down! "We are working inside, not outside", she blatantly lied, "you must have seen the light and thought they 're splatters"!</font></span></div>
<div><span><font color="#000000">"Am I blind?" I asked her. "Your workers are working on the grill of the parapet wall, soldering it, and the hot spotters are falling down. But still you are saying that it is just light, not splatters. Who are you trying to hoodwink?" </font></span></div>
<div><span><font color="#000000">But she continued to gaslight me. Meanwhile the workers came and told me not to worry as the work was over.</font></span></div>
<div><span><font color="#000000">Ufff!</font></span></div>
<div><span>Some people have such a fragile ego, such brittle self-esteem</span><span>, such a weak "psychological constitution," that admitting they made a mistake or that they were wrong is fundamentally too threatening for their egos to tolerate. Accepting they were wrong, absorbing that reality, would be so psychologically shattering that their defense mecahnisms</span><span> do something remarkable to avoid doing so—they literally distort their perception of reality to make it (reality) less threatening. Their defense mechanisms protect their fragile ego by changing the very facts in their mind, so they are no longer wrong or culpable.</span><span><font color="#000000"><br/></font></span></div>
<div><span>People who repeatedly exhibit this kind of behavior are, by definition, psychologically fragile. However, that assessment is often difficult for people to accept, because to the outside world, they look as if they’re confidently standing their ground and not backing down, things we associate with strength. But psychological rigidity is not a sign of strength, it is an indication of weakness. These people are not </span><em>choosing</em><span> to stand their ground; they’re </span><em>compelled</em><span> to do so in order to protect their fragile egos. Admitting we are wrong is unpleasant, it is bruising for any ego. It takes a certain amount of emotional strength and courage to deal with that reality and own up to our mistakes.</span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><span>But when people are constitutionally unable to admit they’re wrong, when they cannot tolerate the very notion that they are capable of mistakes, it is because they suffer from an ego so fragile that they cannot sulk and get over it—they need to warp their very perception of reality and challenge obvious facts in order to defend their not being wrong in the first place.</span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><span>Now how do you deal with such people? Experts give these options:</span></div>
<div><strong>How to deal with people who go defensive</strong> ...</div>
<div>When you feel attacked, even the most humble person can be automatically locked into defense mode. It’s only natural.</div>
<div><p>But people who won't admit their mistakes tend to get defensive no matter how gently or positively you show them they could do something differently or better.</p>
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<p>They just launch into counter-arguments or deflect the issue entirely. You can tell they didn’t put any thought or consideration into your feedback, because their responses often contradict each other. </p>
<p>This is because they’re not speaking from their truth, they’re just digging for anything at all to fight back against what you said. </p>
<p>People who are defensive usually have deep seated fear of judgement or rejection. They equate mistakes with personal inadequacy, so they try their hardest to maintain their self-image.</p>
<p>Understanding that defensiveness often masks insecurity can help us approach these people with more empathy. </p>
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<p>While it doesn’t make the conversation any less challenging, it can help you navigate it with a bit more understanding, knowing that you’re dealing with someone who’s likely fighting their own internal battles.</p>
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<div><strong>How to deal with stubborn people</strong></div>
We’ve all encountered that person who is as unyielding as a rock embedded in the earth. No matter what evidence you present or how rational your argument, they simply won’t budge. I’ve been stuck in these conversational loops myself, feeling more like I’m in a never-ending tug-of-war rather than a meaningful dialogue.</div>
<div dir="ltr">The underlying trait here is stubbornness. For people who exhibit this characteristic, admitting a mistake feels like yielding precious ground, undermining their sense of authority or self-assurance. The psychology behind stubbornness often revolves around issues of self-esteem and control. People who are stubborn may equate being right with being valuable.</div>
<div dir="ltr">The idea of being wrong shakes the very foundation of how they see themselves, leading them to hold onto their opinions with a vice-like grip.</div>
<div dir="ltr">When dealing with such individuals, it can be beneficial to focus less on “winning” the argument and more on opening a door for self-reflection. Using open-ended questions can sometimes coax them into examining their views without feeling cornered. For instance, instead of saying, “You’re wrong about this,” you might ask, “What leads you to see it that way?” This creates a safe space for discussion, and it may encourage them to eventually re-evaluate their stance.</div>
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<div dir="ltr"><div><p><strong>Perfectionism:</strong> Ever met someone who seemed so focused on getting everything just right, it became almost paralyzing? </p>
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<div><p>This is what I struggled with a lot myself — and I’ll admit, it made me very reluctant to admit to my mistakes.</p>
<p>The thing is, perfectionism isn’t just about striving for excellence; it’s an obsessive need to avoid mistakes at all costs. For people trapped in this mindset, admitting a mistake feels like admitting they are deeply flawed. </p>
<p>They believe their worth is tied to their performance, so any error, no matter how small, becomes a devastating blow to their self-esteem.</p>
<p>The irony is that perfectionism often leads to procrastination, indecision, and sometimes, complete inaction — because they fear making a mistake that will tarnish their record. </p>
<p>In a way, the quest for perfection becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy of failure, as their reluctance to act or decide can result in more significant errors.</p>
<p>If you’re dealing with a perfectionist who won’t admit they’re wrong, understanding this internal struggle can help you approach the situation more empathetically. </p>
<p>The key is to help them see that mistakes are not only inevitable but also valuable learning opportunities. </p>
<p>Framing errors as stepping stones to mastery can sometimes help them lower their guard, making them more receptive to constructive feedback. </p>
<p>And who knows? It might be the first step in breaking the shackles of their own impossible standards.</p>
<p>How to deal with <strong>control freaks</strong>: </p>
<p>Ever find yourself in a situation where someone just can’t let go of the reins? I’ve felt that frustrating, stifling air around me, and honestly, it makes collaboration feel impossible.</p>
<p>People who have an insatiable need for control are often the ones who struggle the most with admitting mistakes. For them, control is a safety net, a way to manage the unpredictability of life. </p>
<p>To admit a mistake would mean acknowledging that they’ve lost control, even if only for a moment, and that’s a terrifying prospect for them.</p>
<p>The need for control<a href="https://hackspirit.com/if-someone-displays-these-behaviors-theyre-a-complete-control-freak/"> </a>can manifest in various ways — from micromanaging tasks at work to dictating the flow of a casual conversation. </p>
<p>These individuals have a specific idea of how things should go, and deviating from that script feels like setting the stage for chaos.</p>
<p>If you’re entangled with someone who can’t relinquish control, it’s tempting to push back, to wrestle the wheel away from them. But often, that only leads to more resistance. </p>
<p>Instead, the goal should be to make them feel secure enough to loosen their grip voluntarily. </p>
<p>This might mean assuring them that it’s okay to not have all the answers, or demonstrating that others are capable and can be trusted.</p>
<p>Remember, the need for control often stems from deeper insecurities and fears. Offering a safe space for vulnerability can sometimes crack open the door to admitting mistakes. </p>
<p>It allows them to see that control is not the only way to find safety; sometimes, it comes through collaboration, learning, and yes—admitting when you’re wrong.</p>
<p><strong>How to deal with people who lack empathy</strong></p>
<p>You’ve probably crossed paths with someone who seems to live in their own bubble, utterly unaware of how their actions affect others. </p>
<p>When it comes to mistakes and inconvenience, it’s as if these people are looking through a one-way mirror — they see out, but they don’t let anything in.</p>
<p>This trait is particularly looked down upon, because it directly impacts us. But when you get down to its root, it deserves our compassion just as much as all the others.</p>
<p>It often stems from not receiving enough love growing up, or being mistreated in a way that requires the person to “harden their shell” in order to protect themselves.</p>
<p>At the same time though, when people can’t or won’t put themselves in another’s shoes, they fail to see the full picture. </p>
<p>So they may not grasp why they should apologize or make amends because they can’t emotionally connect with the harm they’ve caused.</p>
<p>Here’s the difficult part in dealing with them: You can’t force someone to be empathetic. Empathy often comes from a deep and emotional understanding of other peoples' <a href="https://hackspirit.com/habits-of-highly-empathetic-people/"> </a>experiences, something that can be difficult to teach. </p>
<p>However, you can set boundaries and communicate the impact of their actions clearly. Sometimes, making it about the ’cause and effect’ — rather than blame — can be an eye-opener.</p>
<p>Also, don’t underestimate the power of leading by example. People who lack empathy often haven’t had it modeled for them. </p>
<p>By consistently demonstrating empathetic behaviour, you offer them a template for healthier, more compassionate interactions.</p>
<p><strong>People who are manipulative: </strong></p>
<p>People who won’t admit to their mistakes are often experts at steering conversations and situations to their advantage. </p>
<p>Their toolkit often includes techniques such as gaslighting, altering the narrative, or implicating others, all to dodge personal responsibility. </p>
<p>It’s not about honesty or growth for them; it’s about keeping the upper hand.</p>
<p>We often brand these people as “toxic”, and the truth is, this behavior is indeed very hurtful. But it is also often learned as an unhealthy coping mechanism. </p>
<p>To these people, mistakes feel so horrible that they need to find any way out of them — often not even realizing what they’re doing as a means to that end.</p>
<p>At the same time, obviously, this behavior is not okay, and by not indulging them, you help them stop and find a better way to cope.</p>
<p>If you’re dealing with someone showing these tendencies, it’s crucial to stick to the facts, remain unemotional, and set firm boundaries. Manipulators struggle when there’s less room to twist the truth and when their emotional tricks fail to land. It can be tiring to handling manipulative individuals, but remember: your integrity is your best defense. </p>
<p>When you’re confident in your version of events, their tactics lose power, and you maintain control of the situation.</p>
<p>I know this is very difficult to do.</p>
<p>I can understand. It is a strange world and you have to deal with all sorts of shit. Keep away from that rubbish as far as possible. You cannot drain all your energies on toxic people all the time and waste your time too on them. So if possible move away from them. If this is not possible, try the techniques experts mentioned above and hope for the best.</p>
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</div> Can you wish, bless or pray for a dead person?tag:kkartlab.in,2024-03-11:2816864:Topic:2521662024-03-11T05:21:28.296ZDr. Krishna Kumari Challahttps://kkartlab.in/profile/DrKrishnaKumariChalla
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<p><font color="#000000">Yesterday some people asked me whether they can wish dead people 'happy birthdays' and 'happy wedding anniversaries' like others are doing.</font></p>
<div><font color="#000000">Well, yes, dead people can no longer celebrate them and 'feel happy about them'.</font></div>
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<div><font color="#000000">But let me ask these questions: Can wishes or blessings or prayers really make any difference in peoples'…</font></div>
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<p><font color="#000000">Yesterday some people asked me whether they can wish dead people 'happy birthdays' and 'happy wedding anniversaries' like others are doing.</font></p>
<div><font color="#000000">Well, yes, dead people can no longer celebrate them and 'feel happy about them'.</font></div>
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<div><font color="#000000">But let me ask these questions: Can wishes or blessings or prayers really make any difference in peoples' lives?</font></div>
<div><font color="#000000">When you say "all the best for your exam", will it make the person get only easy questions in the examination paper, or only the ones the person read and can answer or make the person more intelligent or more-knowledgeable to write the exam excellently?</font></div>
<div><font color="#000000">When lots of people wish someone a ' happy new year', will that make the year very happy to that person?</font></div>
<div><font color="#000000">The answer is NO! And that is a big <font size="4">NO!</font></font></div>
<div><font size="4" color="#000000">And we have evidence!</font></div>
<div><font color="#000000">Let me explain.</font></div>
<div><font color="#000000">Human beings are highly emotional. Emotions rule the world. At the emotional level, yes, people feel happy if you wish them , bless them or pray for them. Feel good hormones will be produced in their systems - that is the reason why they feel elated and if someone they think is close don't wish these hormones will not be produced and therefore, they feel bad or low. That is why people say, 'these wishes and blessings mean a lot to us'.</font></div>
<div><font color="#000000">These are the people who cannot control their emotions. They depend on external 'happiness boosters' to feel elated. That again is based on cultural conditioning of minds. As your culture or belief system tells you - if someone wishes you something good it will bring all the better things into your life. </font></div>
<div><font color="#000000">But do they really? NO. </font></div>
<div><font color="#000000">Research has shown that wishes or blessings or prayers have absolutely no effect on the final outcomes or results. You might get a little bit of a psychological (mental or emotional) boost and that might make you go out and perform in a good mood. That is all. </font></div>
<div><h3 id="gmail-sec2-2title"><span style="font-size: 8pt;"><font color="#000000">Prayer ( wishes or blessings) may be supported by varying degrees of faith and may therefore be associated with all the benefits that have been associated with the "placebo" * response.</font></span></h3>
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<div><font color="#000000">(* Placebo is <span> usually a pharmacologically inert preparation prescribed more for the mental relief of the patient than for its actual effect on a disorder</span><span>. </span><span>Clinically significant treatment gains have been observed with placebo in numerous disorders, including anxiety, depression, schizophrenia, obsessive-compulsive disorder, tardive dyskinesia, ischemic heart disease, cardiac failure, Parkinson's disease and even cancer, among a host of other conditions.)</span></font></div>
<div><font color="#000000"><span>Relevant to the context of prayer and healing, the placebo response is influenced by personality traits and behaviours such as optimism,</span><span> response expectancy,</span><span> motivational concordance (i.e., the degree to which the behavioural rituals of the therapy are congruent with the motivational system of the subject)</span><span> and degree of engagement with a ritual.</span><span><br/></span></font></div>
<div><font color="#000000"><span>Sometimes, spontaneous remission and regression may occur coincidental to prayer. That's it. </span><font size="4"><br/></font></font></div>
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<div><font color="#000000"><span>It has been shown that prayer is no better in answering requests than tossing a coin and sometimes worse.</span><br/></font></div>
<div><p class="gmail-q-text gmail-qu-display--block gmail-qu-wordBreak--break-word gmail-qu-textAlign--start"><span><font color="#000000">There have been numerous studies on prayer. Most of them have a result within the statistical error margin compared to the control group, meaning that any positive or negative effect could well be a random fluke.</font></span></p>
<p class="gmail-q-text gmail-qu-display--block gmail-qu-wordBreak--break-word gmail-qu-textAlign--start"><font color="#000000"><span>Some studies stand out, for instance the </span><span class="gmail-q-inline"><a class="gmail-q-box gmail-Link___StyledBox-t2xg9c-0 gmail-gOCLNQ gmail-puppeteer_test_link gmail-qu-cursor--pointer gmail-qu-hover--textDecoration--underline" title="www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov" href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16569567" target="_blank" rel="noopener nofollow">Study of the Therapeutic Effects of Intercessory Prayer (STEP) in cardiac bypass patients</a></span><span>: in this study, patients of cardiac bypass were randomly divided into three groups.</span></font></p>
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<li class="gmail-q-relative"><span><font color="#000000">One group were told that they may or may not have intercessory prayer said for them, which they then had.</font></span></li>
<li class="gmail-q-relative"><span><font color="#000000">One group were told that they may or may not have intercessory prayer said for them, which they then did not have.</font></span></li>
<li class="gmail-q-relative"><span><font color="#000000">The control group were told that they would have intercessory prayer said for them, which they then had.</font></span></li>
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<p class="gmail-q-text gmail-qu-display--block gmail-qu-wordBreak--break-word gmail-qu-textAlign--start"><span><font color="#000000">The prayer was standardised like “we pray for the speedy recover without complications of John N” (given name and initial), and distributed among randomly selected congregations. Then the complication rates of the patients were measured in a given time.</font></span></p>
<p class="gmail-q-text gmail-qu-display--block gmail-qu-wordBreak--break-word gmail-qu-textAlign--start"><span><font color="#000000">There was practically no difference in complication rates among the two first groups – about 50% of patients in both had some form of complication.</font></span></p>
<p class="gmail-q-text gmail-qu-display--block gmail-qu-wordBreak--break-word gmail-qu-textAlign--start"><span><font color="#000000">The third one was different, though: about 60% of patients in this group had some form of complication.</font></span></p>
<p class="gmail-q-text gmail-qu-display--block gmail-qu-wordBreak--break-word gmail-qu-textAlign--start"><span><font color="#000000">During research it was found that unless you told people you were praying for them... then outcomes were worse for the prayee!<br/></font></span></p>
<div><h3 id="gmail-sec2-6title">Absence of benefits with prayer</h3>
<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-first">Aviles <em>et al.</em>[1] examined cardiovascular outcomes related to prayer. In this study, 799 coronary care unit patients at discharge were randomized to intercessory prayer or no prayer conditions. Prayer was conducted by five persons per patient at least once a week for 26 weeks.</p>
<p>Patients were considered to belong to a high-risk group if they were 70 years old or older or if they had any of the following: diabetes mellitus, previous myocardial infarction, cerebrovascular disease or peripheral vascular disease. The primary endpoint of the study was any of the following: death, cardiac arrest, rehospitalization for cardiovascular disease, coronary revascularization or an emergency department visit for cardiovascular disease.</p>
<p>By the end of 26 weeks, a primary endpoint had occurred in 25.6% of patients in the prayer group and in 29.3% of patients in the control group. The difference was not statistically significant. The results remained nonsignificant when data were analyzed separately for high- and low-risk patients. Thus, this study showed that, as delivered in this study, intercessory prayer did not influence the 26-week outcome after discharge from a coronary care unit.</p>
<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-last">Other recent randomized controlled trials have also reported negative results. For example, Krucoff <em>et al.</em>[2] reported no benefits with off-site prayer in patients (<em>n</em> = 748) undergoing percutaneous coronary interventions and Astin <em>et al.</em>[3] found that neither remote prayer delivered by professional healers nor remote prayer delivered by nurses with no training or experience in distance healing resulted in benefits to patients (<em>n</em> = = 156) with acquired immunodeficiency syndrome-defining opportunistic infections.</p>
<h3 id="gmail-sec2-7title">Worse outcomes associated with prayer</h3>
<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-first">Benson <em>et al.</em>[4] described a triple-blind, randomized controlled study that examined whether remote intercessory prayer influenced recovery after coronary artery bypass graft surgery and whether the certainty of being prayed for was associated with better outcomes. The sample comprised 1,802 patients in six hospitals in the USA. These patients were randomized into three groups: 604 were prayed for after being informed that they may or may not be prayed for, 597 were not prayed for after similarly being informed that they may or may not be prayed for and 601 were prayed for after being informed they would definitely be prayed for.</p>
<p>Prayer commenced one day before the surgery and continued for 14 days. Three mainstream religious sites prayed daily for patients assigned to receive prayer. Assessment of outcomes was made by nurses who were blind to the group assignments. The primary outcome was the presence of any complication within 30 days of surgery. Secondary outcomes were any major event, including death. The study sought to examine the efficacy of intercessory prayer and not to test the presence of God. The design was described by Dusek <em>et al.</em>[5]</p>
<p>In the two groups that did not know for certain whether or not they were being prayed for, complications occurred in 52% of patients who received intercessory prayer and in 51% of those who did not. In contrast, complications occurred in a significantly larger proportion of patients (59%) who knew for certain that they were being prayed for. Major events and 30-day mortality rates, however, were similar across the three groups.</p>
<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-last">This study therefore showed that remote intercessory prayer did not improve outcomes after coronary artery bypass graft surgery. In fact, the knowledge of being prayed for was associated with a slightly but significantly higher rate of postsurgical complications.</p>
<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-last">In scientific research by invoking prayer, researchers invite troublesome questions about the importance of several theosophical matters (6):</p>
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<li><div>Do the quantitative aspects of prayer influence outcomes? Quantity refers to the number of prayers, the frequency of the prayers and the duration of the prayers.</div>
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<li><div>Do the qualitative aspects of prayer influence outcomes? Quality refers to the category to which the prayer belongs in the religion of the person who is praying; the fervency with which the petition is expressed; whether the prayer is expressed in thoughts, speech or song; the addition of vows and sacrifices, etc.</div>
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<li><div>Does the practical content of the prayer or the actual petition matter? That is, are some petitions more or less likely to receive a favourable response, depending on how reasonable they are?</div>
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<li><div>Are outcomes more likely to be favourable if the persons praying have greater belief that the outcome will be favourable, or greater faith or conviction in the deity at whom the prayer is directed?</div>
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<li><div>Are outcomes more likely to be favourable if a larger number of people pray or if a team approach is adopted as opposed to an individual approach?</div>
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<li><div>Might outcomes depend on the personal characteristics of the persons who pray; that is, their age, sex, income, religious denomination, position in the religious hierarchy, experience with and skills at praying and so on?</div>
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<li><div>Might outcomes depend on the moral and social characteristics of the persons who pray; that is, their integrity, kindness, altruism, willingness to forgive, generosity, religiosity and so on?</div>
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<li><div>Might outcomes depend on the personal, moral and social characteristics of the persons in whose favor the prayer is offered, or of the general worthiness of the cause?</div>
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<li><div>Would the outcomes depend on the entity at whom the prayers are directed?</div>
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<li><div>What is the nature and magnitude of response that would be considered as a favourable outcome?</div>
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<div><p>These “pharmacokinetic and pharmacodynamic” descriptors of prayer are all important issues to judge from the manner in which persons pray, or if persons with strong religious affiliations are to be believed. Therefore, all of the above would need to be considered as independent or confounding variables in any scientific study on the efficacy of intercessory prayer. Curiously, no study has so far addressed these issues. And, for several reasons, such issues are disturbing because they reduce the concept of God to that of a human being with weaknesses and vanities, thereby exposing theological inconsistencies and attacking the very roots of theology and natural justice. Some of the unsettling questions that arise in these contexts are presented below; the questions are unsettling because they invite comparison with human parallels that devalue the concept of God, something that those who pray surely would not have considered. Researchers raised these important questions (6):</p>
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<li><div>If the number, duration and frequency of prayer are important or if the number of persons praying is important, does God, like a businessman, market boons based on the currency value of the prayers? Or, will God pay attention only if those who pray are sufficiently bothersome?</div>
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<li><div>If the type of prayer is important, is God a bureaucrat who is more likely to consider petitions that appear in the prescribed forms?</div>
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<li><div>If the addition of vows and sacrifices is important, is God somebody who can be flattered or bribed into granting a boon?</div>
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<li><div>If the level of fervency or intensity is important, does God distinguish between “please”, “pretty please” and “pretty please with ribbons on it”?</div>
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<li><div>If the practical content of and petitions in the prayer are important, how does God make decisions about what is and what is not a reasonable request?</div>
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<li><div>If the faith or conviction of the persons who pray is important, does God value the beliefs of the petitioners more than the merits of the petitions?</div>
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<li><div>If the personal characteristics and qualities of the persons who pray (or the persons who are being prayed for) are important, are some people more equal before God than other people? Religions portray God as being compassionate; what sort of compassion is displayed by the selective favoring of an experimental over a control group?</div>
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<li><div>If the entity to which the prayer is directed is important, do different Gods have different portfolios? Are some Gods more approachable? Do some Gods ignore some prayers? If the religious affiliation of the person who prays is important, what becomes of the other religions of the world and those who follow such religions; will their prayers remain unanswered?</div>
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<li><div>If the magnitude of response to the petitions is total, then all prayers should result in miraculous or near-miraculous benefits. This, clearly, almost never happens. Thus, does God work on percentages; that is, if the petition is for an elephant, does he sanction a mouse? Or, are his responses only subtle ones? If so, how does he choose on the outcome measure to improve?</div>
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<p>These questions are unsettling to those who pray because of their theological implications, but they are also unsettling to scientists because they challenge the design, analysis and interpretation of randomized controlled trials of the efficacy of intercessory prayer. Consider the following:</p>
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<li><div>It could be difficult, if not impossible, to measure all the independent and confounding variables that are important in such research. For example, how might one measure faith, fervency, reasonableness, worthiness, religiosity, morality and other abstract constructs?</div>
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<li><div>How might one define what is an acceptable response to prayer? Healing can be partial or complete. It can be psychological or physical. It can be abstract or concrete. Confounding the picture, statistically significant improvement can be identified only if the same outcome measure is improved in a sufficiently large number of experimental relative to control patients, but why should God decide to select any one outcome measure over the rest? And if different outcome measures improve in different experimental patients in response to prayer, there is no way in which the improvement can be statistically detected.</div>
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<li><div>As atheists, in general, form a minority in most populations, in any randomized controlled trial of intercessory prayer, there is likely to be a number of persons (friends, relatives and the patients themselves) praying for members of both experimental and control groups, unknown to the researchers. If prayer works, this unmeasured source of healing could diminish intergroup differences in outcomes.</div>
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<li><div>As inferential statistical tests will be applied to the data generated by randomized controlled trials of intercessory prayer, is it valid to assume that acts of God conform to normal, t or other statistical distributions? Or that God responds mechanistically to prayer, in a manner that follows laws of probability? In this context, miraculous healings are considered to be outside the provisions of nature, and so divine intervention could actually be expected to violate probability.</div>
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<li><div>Alternately, if prayer is a nonlinear variable, the merits and demerits of which are decided upon by God, then one prayer made by a control patient or relative can statistically offset a multitude of intercessory prayers offered on behalf of the experimental patients. In fact, if divine intervention is selective or arbitrary in response to petitions, the entire basis of randomized controlled design and inferential statistical analysis becomes invalid.</div>
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<p>From a scientific perspective, if prayer is indeed considered to work, thought should also be given to the possibility that it may not require a deity. It may, instead, invoke some hitherto unidentified mental energy that has healing power. If so, might prayer be more effective if those who pray are in closer proximity to those who are being prayed for? Might the direction in which persons face (while praying) matter? Might the assistance of the physical sciences be required to identify the nature of the biological energies at work?</p>
<p>It should be noted that the distant healing, intercessory prayer studies specifically test the intervention of a divine entity. This is because the intercessors are usually blind to the identities of the patients for whom they pray, or (at least) because the intercessors do not have any contact with these patients. Therefore, it is left to a sentient being to miraculously divine the intent of the prayers and apply the intercession to the correct target.</p>
<p>Of note, distant healing, intercessory prayer studies address soft diagnoses with soft outcomes. No study, for example, has examined whether prayer can result in the disappearance of medically proven tumors and metastases, reversal of traumatic paraplegia or revival from a state of brain death. It would seem that the results of such studies could be more convincing than the results of studies on wound healing or successful pregnancy. Could it be that those who pray believe that God has or sets limitations?</p>
<p>Researchers close the critique with two final questions (6):</p>
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<li><div>If research on intercessory prayer is positive, does it suggest to us ways and means by which we can manipulate God or make his behaviour statistically predictable?</div>
</li>
<li><div>Why would any divine entity be willing to submit to experiments that attempt to validate his existence and constrain his responses?</div>
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<p>In this context, we must keep in mind that religion is based on faith and not on proof. This implies that, if God exists, he is indifferent to humanity or has chosen to obscure his presence. Either way, he would be unlikely to cooperate in scientific studies that seek to test his existence.</p>
<p>Where does this leave us? God may indeed exist and prayer may indeed heal like theists think and say that their research has validated this; however, it appears that, for important theological and scientific reasons, randomized controlled studies cannot be applied to the study of the efficacy of prayer in healing. In fact, no form of scientific enquiry presently available can suitably address the subject. Therefore, the continuance of such research may result in the conducted studies finding place among other seemingly impeccable studies with seemingly absurd claims (Renckens <em>et al.</em> 2002; [7]). Whereas some scientists have attempted to be scientifically and politically correct in their critique, other authors, such as Dawkins,[8] have been humorous, no even scathing, in their criticism.</p>
<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-last">The aim of science is not only to open a door to infinite wisdom but to set a limit to infinite error.</p>
<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-last">So some say prayers have some effects but that is highly questionable.</p>
<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-last">Okay, coming to the main question, If you send wishes to a dead person, he cannot have a psychological boost like living persons. But what your wish says is how much you care about the person, how you remembered an important date in that person's life and how you still feel about that person. The dead person's close relatives and friends might feel happy about this. This also shows how much the dead person is still loved, respected or revered. This is an important Hallmark of that person.</p>
<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-last">So you can wish the dead person to pay your respects and make all his or her loved ones happy. </p>
<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-last">Those who are living and say these wishes mean a lot to them are denoting that they are unable to overcome their emotional dependence on them and do need them for a psychological boost. </p>
<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-last">Coming to the emotional boost of wishes or blessings or prayers, those who have risen above the emotional aspects in their lives don't need these external boosters. I certainly don't need them and wrote a poem too on this sometime back (9).</p>
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<div class="xg_headline xg_headline-img xg_headline-2l"><div class="tb"><h1>Don't send me your good wishes!</h1>
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<div class="xg_module_body"><div class="discussion"><div class="description"><div class="xg_user_generated"><div dir="ltr" class="gmail_signature"><div dir="ltr"><div>Don't greet me on my birthday</div>
<div>I will be happy everyday</div>
<div>Whether you send me good wishes or not</div>
<div>I have my overflowing satisfaction pot!</div>
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<div>Sending good vibes don't change anything</div>
<div>They don't make the luck swing </div>
<div>My way or anybody's way</div>
<div>They don't bring the positive sway</div>
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<div>Mere words won't do </div>
<div>You don't have a clue</div>
<div>Of how a change is brought about</div>
<div>What changes a disastrous clout</div>
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<div>When I can meet my best chance with my hard work</div>
<div> I will get my greatest perk</div>
<div>The able ones don't need </div>
<div>Your sweet ego-feed</div>
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<div>Instead, if you can really assist</div>
<div>The needy, the old and resist</div>
<div>The inconsistencies in the statuses</div>
<div>That is the gesture a good heart always cherishes.</div>
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<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-last">But the irony is people who give spiritual renderings too depend on them for their emotional well being. They say y<span>ou can learn how to control your emotions by rising above them to the degree of consciousness of your Higher Self (10).</span></p>
<p>When you identify with an emotion you become that emotion, even if temporarily, and then that emotion is in control as it colours all your thoughts and actions. In contrast, by learning how to control your emotions by rising above them and observing your experiences as if from above, then any associated emotions can be tempered.</p>
<p>This is not the same as not having or suppressing your emotions. Controlling your emotions is about changing the way you handle those experiences that trigger extreme emotional reactions within you. By observing your emotions from a higher vantage point, as if observing yourself having those emotions from a distance, you no longer identify with them.</p>
<p><span>It's not what happens to you that counts but rather how you perceive that experience, or in other words, the meaning you give to it. Any experience is in itself neutral but your emotions surrounding the experience determine its impact on you, and your emotions are in turn coloured by the core beliefs</span><span> of your personal belief system. </span></p>
<p><span>I am not into spiritual things but when science tells me there is no meaning to wishes, blessings or prayers in reality and that they won't affect the result or outcome in any way - I don't feel anything at all whether people wish me or not! If they find time to wish me, it is okay and I thank them for taking time to do that. If they have more important work to do and are unable to wish for me, I can understand that and still this is also okay with me. </span></p>
<p><span>It doesn't make any difference to me, dead or alive, whether people wish me or not! If people call that emotional maturity like my friends and colleagues do, that is what science has brought into my life and I thank SCIENCE for that. </span></p>
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<p>to all those who need an emotional boost :)</p>
<p class="gmail-p gmail-p-last"><strong>Footnotes:</strong></p>
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<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>If your health is not good, take the help of genuine qualified medical doctors.</span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>Negative energy is a concept used in physics to explain the nature of certain fields. These are some examples ….</span></p>
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<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>If you are surrounded by people who cause pain, either deal with them with mental strength or move away from them if you can’t deal with them.</span></p>
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<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>If you still can’t deal with them yourself, consult a genuine professional psychiatrist who could really help you.</span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>Just taking a bath, using a ‘cleanser’ will not deal with any of these things and accepting advices from cheaters and fraudsters will cause more harm to you.</span></p>
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<div>Krishna: "Suffering in between" is an expression used by people who don't know how to tackle the issue. </div>
<div>Usually our biases play a role and you end up supporting the person you love or like more even if they are wrong, complicating the issue! <span> Or if you don't like one person you frequently think that the person is always wrong. Or if you are afraid of one person or depend on him/her for emotional support, you support that person without giving a second thought. Or if your family is fighting with your neighbour, or relatives you naturally support your family as you think it is 'closer' to you. Or if one person is in a 'higher position' in a society, you support them irrespective of their 'correctness'. Or if you yourself are unable to understand and decide which side is right. </span></div>
<div><span>People choose one side over the other depending on their own value judgments but not real facts. What makes a side right or wrong is that side’s objectives and goals. You pick your side based on your personal beliefs that match the side you like.</span></div>
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<div>But in every fight there will be only one right side of the issue and the other one is ego or selfishness (or self-interest) or insecurity or inferiority complex.</div>
<div><span>It’s also not a question of ‘most correct’.</span></div>
<div><span>The correct, the right, the proper, the humane, the good side.</span></div>
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<div>I think one should always support the right position, not people. And explain to the other side what they are doing is not appropriate and they should downsize their ego or whatever that is causing the friction.</div>
<div>Sit the squabbling sides down and tell them frankly and in detail why one is right and the other one is illusioned and clearly tell them you are not taking peoples' sides but the right position side.</div>
<div>But the problem here is most people don't understand the difference between supporting the right position and people. Even if you support the right position, people think you are taking the other person's side as you are biased.</div>
<div>If you really are unbiased, this accusation doesn't bother you. At least you will get the satisfaction that you have chosen the right path.</div>
<div>"Talk" and talk freely and frankly. If they listen and understand your point and position properly, they will stop squabbling unnecessarily. But if they don't (some don't, I can understand that), tell them clearly you won't support the wrong position and in no way bothered about their opinions or feelings and will maintain a distance from them, they will understand that as nobody is supporting them, they will re-analyse their behaviour.</div>
<div>Usually somebody's support or silence is what makes the wrong side to go ahead with their wrong ways and harass the right side. </div>
<div>It is mostly your fault and your inadequacies that are leading to these types of situations. </div>
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<div class="q-absolute qu-fullX qu-fullY qu-borderAll qu-borderColor--darken qu-borderRadius--circle BadgeWrapper___StyledAbsolute-kazm88-0 bhmOme">Krishna : “Spy” is a broad term. In general a person employed by a government or other organization to secretly obtain information on an enemy or competitor.</div>
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<blockquote class="q-relative qu-color--gray"><p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>In the intelligence world, a spy is strictly defined as someone used to steal secrets for an intelligence organization. Also called an agent or asset, </span><span>a spy is not a professional intelligence officer</span><span>, and doesn't usually receive formal training (5)</span></p>
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<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>An </span><span>intelligence officer</span><span> is a person employed by an organization to collect, compile or analyze information (known as intelligence) which is of use to that organization. The word of </span><span>officer</span><span> is a working title, not a rank, used in the same way a "police officer" can also be a sergeant, or in the military, in which non-commissioned personnel may serve as intelligence officers (6).</span></p>
<blockquote class="q-relative qu-color--gray"><p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>A detective or investigator works in the field of law enforcement, looking for clues and evidence (usually quite openly) as part of solving a crime. Think Sherlock Homes, or famed FBI agent Melvin Purvis who hunted down gangsters in the 1930s. A spy (or intelligence officer), however, gathers information (usually in secret) about the activities or intentions of a rival government or group in support of national security (5).</span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>Counterintelligence activities, such as espionage or covert action, aim to prevent other spies from obtaining secrets, and to protect secrets and security against the efforts of other spies. (5)</span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>Espionage is defined as the act of spying or using spies, agents, assets, and intelligence officers, as well as technology, to collect secret information, usually through illegal means.</span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>Intelligence officers often operate abroad under some form of official cover, perhaps as diplomats in an embassy. Others operate without the protection of their government and must create a convincing cover that explains their presence and activities in a country—a businessperson, perhaps, or a student.</span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>Cyber espionage involves using computer systems to steal classified information, often government secrets.</span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>Undercover agent. (military) a secret agent hired by a state to obtain information about its enemies or by a business to obtain industrial secrets from competitors (8).</span></p>
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<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>A spy can carry a gun. However, the majority of them do not. Spies are all about stealth and covertness, and guns attract attention. A spy's greatest weapon is not being noticed. Moreover, getting caught with a weapon will invite scrutiny that a spy doesn't want.</span></p>
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<blockquote class="q-relative qu-color--gray"><p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>The vast majority of CIA officers do not carry weapons. Aside from officers in the Security Protective Service, or those serving in war zones, most CIA officers will never be issued a gun (4).</span></p>
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<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><strong>Footnotes:</strong></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>1. </span><span class="q-inline"><a class="q-box Link___StyledBox-t2xg9c-0 gOCLNQ puppeteer_test_link qu-cursor--pointer qu-hover--textDecoration--underline" title="www.reptileknowledge.com" href="https://www.reptileknowledge.com/reptile-pedia/do-all-secret-service-have-guns#%3A~%3Atext%3DThe%20Secret%20Service%20does%20not%2Cthe%20White%20House%20and%20embassies%20" target="_blank" rel="noopener nofollow">Do all Secret Service have guns?</a></span><span>.</span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>2. </span><span class="q-inline"><a class="q-box Link___StyledBox-t2xg9c-0 gOCLNQ puppeteer_test_link qu-cursor--pointer qu-hover--textDecoration--underline" title="www.eliteukforces.info" href="https://www.eliteukforces.info/mi6/#%3A~%3Atext%3DDespite%20a%20reliance%20on%20UKSF%2Cin%20the%20line%20of%20duty" target="_blank" rel="noopener nofollow">The Secret Intelligence Service</a></span><span>.</span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>3. </span><span class="q-inline"><a class="q-box Link___StyledBox-t2xg9c-0 gOCLNQ puppeteer_test_link qu-cursor--pointer qu-hover--textDecoration--underline" title="en.wikipedia.org" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LAPD_Special_Investigation_Section#%3A~%3Atext%3DThe%20SIS%20is%20authorized%20to%2Cpistols%20in%209%C3%9719mm%2C%20" target="_blank" rel="noopener nofollow">LAPD Special Investigation Section - Wikipedia</a></span><span>.</span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>4. </span><span class="q-inline"><a class="q-box Link___StyledBox-t2xg9c-0 gOCLNQ puppeteer_test_link qu-cursor--pointer qu-hover--textDecoration--underline" title="www.cia.gov" href="https://www.cia.gov/stories/story/top-10-cia-myths/" target="_blank" rel="noopener nofollow">https://www.cia.gov/stories/story/top-10-cia-myths/</a></span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>5. </span><span class="q-inline"><a class="q-box Link___StyledBox-t2xg9c-0 gOCLNQ puppeteer_test_link qu-cursor--pointer qu-hover--textDecoration--underline" title="www.spymuseum.org" href="https://www.spymuseum.org/education-programs/spy-resources/espionage-facts/#%3A~%3Atext%3DIn%20the%20intelligence%20world%2C%20a%2Cmay%20be%20taught%20basic%20tradecraft)." target="_blank" rel="noopener nofollow">Espionage Facts</a></span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span>6. </span><span class="q-inline"><a class="q-box Link___StyledBox-t2xg9c-0 gOCLNQ puppeteer_test_link qu-cursor--pointer qu-hover--textDecoration--underline" title="en.wikipedia.org" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intelligence_officer" target="_blank" rel="noopener nofollow">Intelligence officer - Wikipedia</a></span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span class="q-inline">7. <a href="https://www.spymuseum.org/exhibition-experiences/">https://www.spymuseum.org/exhibition-experiences/</a></span></p>
<p class="q-text qu-display--block qu-wordBreak--break-word qu-textAlign--start"><span class="q-inline">8. <a href="https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/undercover%20agent#:~:text=Definitions%20of%20undercover%20agent,examples%3A%20Margarete%20Gertrud%20Zelle">https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/undercover%20agent#:~:text=Definitions%20of%20undercover%20agent,examples%3A%20Margarete%20Gertrud%20Zelle</a></span></p>
</div> Things only intelligent people can understand and dotag:kkartlab.in,2024-03-01:2816864:Topic:2518172024-03-01T04:25:19.006ZDr. Krishna Kumari Challahttps://kkartlab.in/profile/DrKrishnaKumariChalla
<p>Q: What is the real mark of intelligence? </p>
<p>Krishna: These are the things only intelligent people can understand and do:</p>
<div><span>Sometimes you have to play the role of a fool to fool the fool who thinks they’re fooling you.</span></div>
<div><span>Distance can really give you some clarity on how you feel about people.</span></div>
<div><span>A clear rejection is always better than a fake promise.</span></div>
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<p>Q: What is the real mark of intelligence? </p>
<p>Krishna: These are the things only intelligent people can understand and do:</p>
<div><span>Sometimes you have to play the role of a fool to fool the fool who thinks they’re fooling you.</span></div>
<div><span>Distance can really give you some clarity on how you feel about people.</span></div>
<div><span>A clear rejection is always better than a fake promise.</span></div>
<div><span>The more you know, the closer you are to death.</span></div>
<div><span>When you choose peace, it comes with a lot of goodbyes.</span></div>
<div><span>Sometimes people are on journeys that you are not a part of.</span></div>
<div><span>High standards lead to fulfilling experiences. Instead of settling for average, stay with high-caliber people.</span></div>
<div><span>Life throws curve balls at people all the time, and it’s how they handle these unexpected situations that truly reveal their intelligence.</span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><span>Intelligent people have the ability to understand and share the feelings of others, to put oneself in their shoes.</span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><span>Self-awareness is another hallmark of truly smart people. It’s the ability to understand one’s own emotions, strengths, weaknesses, drives, values, and goals.</span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><p><b>Critical thinking</b> is a significant trait of smart people. It’s the ability to analyze information objectively and make a reasoned judgment. Smart people don’t just accept information at face value. They dig deeper, ask questions, and evaluate the evidence. They can separate facts from opinions and make logical connections between ideas.They’re not easily swayed by emotional arguments or manipulated by deceptive rhetoric. Instead, they base their decisions and trusts on thorough analysis and reasoned judgment.</p>
<p>When you come across someone who doesn’t just swallow information whole, but chews it over carefully, you’re likely dealing with a smart person.</p>
<p>Resilience is a trait that speaks volumes about a person’s intelligence. It’s the ability to bounce back from failures and setbacks, to keep going when things get tough. Smart people understand that failure isn’t the end of the road, but rather a stepping stone on the path to success. They don’t let setbacks discourage them or dampen their spirits.<span>They have no problem with failure.</span><span>They see failed experiments as information that is one step closer to what they are looking for.</span></p>
<p><b>Open-mindedness</b> is a trait intelligent people strive for. It’s the willingness to consider different ideas and opinions, even if they contradict their own.</p>
<p>The most important trait of truly smart people is their commitment to continuous learning. They understand that learning doesn’t end when formal education does.</p>
<p>The problem-solving ability of smart people is unique. This is where they shine the brightest. It’s not just about finding a solution to a problem; it’s about how they approach it.</p>
<p>Smart people have a unique way of breaking down complex problems into manageable parts. They look at things from different angles, consider various outcomes, and weigh the pros and cons.</p>
<p>They’re not afraid to think outside the box and often come up with creative solutions that others might not have considered.</p>
<p>Intelligent people know others cannot understand them and therefore always complain about them.</p>
Intelligent people like their own company: highly intelligent people tend to be "very individualistic."<br/>
<div><span>Interestingly, </span><a href="http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/bjop.12181/abstract" target="_blank" rel="noopener">recent research suggests</a><span> that smarter people tend to derive less satisfaction than most people do from socializing with friends</span> and relatives<span>.</span></div>
<div>They Stop Worrying About What Others Think. However, smart people know that they need to strike a healthy balance between their need to belong and their ability to go after their goals and dreams.</div>
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<li>They work on trusting themselves more.</li>
<li>They put things in perspective by reminding themselves that one day they’ll die. After all, the last thing that they want is to be lying on their deathbeds regretting all the things they didn’t do because they were worried about the opinion of others.</li>
<li>They learn to be more selective about whose opinion really matters to them.</li>
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<p>Intelligent people have a never-ending sense of curiosity.</p>
They have high self-control: Smart people are able to overcome impulsiveness by "planning, clarifying goals, exploring alternative strategies and considering consequences before [they] begin." Scientists have found a link between self-control and intelligence.</div>
<div>Intelligent people can connect seemingly unrelated concepts. Smart people are able to see patterns where others can't. That's because they can draw parallels between seemingly disparate ideas.</div>
<div><span>Intelligent people ask Great thought provoking Questions</span><span>. Smart people know how to </span><span>ask</span><span> the right </span><span>questions</span><span>.</span></div>
<div>They seek out challenges. They constantly hunt for knowledge .<span>They</span><span> focus on what </span><span>they</span><span> want to know, not what </span><span>they</span><span> already know. </span><span>They try to figure things out themselves. </span><span>They want to experiment and problem-solve. They want to struggle a little first and </span>not<span> give up too soon.</span><span>They wrap their minds around things that can’t/shouldn’t make sense, knowing something caused it to happen.</span></div>
<div><span>They connect the dots. </span><span>They look for connections between dissimilar things, read across fields and disciplines.</span></div>
<div><span>They abstract from their experiences.</span><span>They find patterns in ordinary stuff and scale them up, always observing tiny parts of life that are often overlooked and figure out how to explain them (creating theories and breakthroughs.)</span></div>
<div><span>They don’t get hung up on crumbs. </span><span>They don’t let the actions of others bother them, as long as they don’t get in the way.</span></div>
<div><span>They move </span>slowly<span>, until they hit warp speed. </span><span>They think about a problem before doing anything.</span></div>
<div><span>They don’t always use big words.</span><span>They use the "right words" – big or simple. </span></div>
<div><span>They know that </span><span>Discomfort Is a Part of Life.</span></div>
<p>Achieving things that are important to them will require that they tolerate some discomfort, frustration, and psychological pain.</p>
<p>They understand that No One Is Coming to The Rescue. What happens in your life is up to you. You’re responsible for your life. If there’s something that you want to happen, you have to make it happen. No one is going to make things happen for you. You have to rescue yourself.</p>
<div><font color="#4C1130"><span>They very well know that </span><span>Conformity is For Suckers.</span></font></div>
<p><font color="#4C1130">If you give in to society’s pressure to conform, you’ll never discover what you’re capable of. Think for yourself, make your own rules, step away from the well-trodden path, and do your own thing.</font></p>
<p><font color="#4C1130">They </font><span>Constantly Stretch Out of their Comfort Zone.</span></p>
<p>“Life begins outside of your comfort zone.” and so they think the only way to grow, build your capabilities, and reach your full potential is by stepping outside of your comfort zone.</p>
<p>They pick themselves: Whatever it is that you want to accomplish or achieve, stop waiting for somebody else to pick you. Instead, pick yourself. </p>
<p>They will never quit: Achieving your important goals won’t be easy. However, you’ll succeed only if you refuse to quit. </p>
<p>Reality doesn't change because people deny it and they <span> can live in their own illusionary mad world, like several people do, but intelligent people like scientists can’t do that because their world’s are mostly based on evidence-based facts that can’t go wrong most of the time.</span></p>
<p><span>Intelligent people can see things that others can't. They can understand things in different and several other ways. Therefore, ordinary people can comprehend their intelligent thoughts and words wrongly and only in a limited way. This is one of the important things intelligent people understand clearly and therefore, don't try to explain or argue much. They just go their own way whether others understand them or not.</span><font color="#888888"><br/></font></p>
<p></p> If I were to remain silent, I'd be guilty of complicitytag:kkartlab.in,2024-02-27:2816864:Topic:2520912024-02-27T07:16:25.945ZDr. Krishna Kumari Challahttps://kkartlab.in/profile/DrKrishnaKumariChalla
<div>I recently read this quote:</div>
<p><font color="#4C1130">Never be judgemental towards other people's beliefs. You might have a wrong perception.</font></p>
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<div>I recently read this quote:</div>
<p><font color="#4C1130">Never be judgemental towards other people's beliefs. You might have a wrong perception.</font></p>
<div dir="ltr" class="gmail_signature"><div dir="ltr"><div><span>Judgemental means - having or displaying an </span><span class="gmail-AraNOb"><a class="gmail-rMNQNe" href="https://www.google.com/search?sca_esv=c651947b4c13b510&sxsrf=ACQVn08CMhDCfZUOPIsZpdKwRu2KP5Nc6Q:1709015739686&q=overly&si=AKbGX_qMqBjhUm3ZRWjCp4_5aZjJzqkzTn4RXTiV1pw5gwnBhic1ngjTatKHl35sO0pdbAg_XeJLOW1A6Fo4ZrStfAqsHPZ25Q%3D%3D&expnd=1">overly</a></span><span> critical point of view.</span></div>
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<div><span>Right. This made me think a lot. Because I see everything from a scientific point of view. And science is based on evidence based facts. </span></div>
<div><span>And what if I find people with lots of superstitious beliefs? What if these beliefs are causing harm to everybody around? </span></div>
<div><span>What if these people with irrational beliefs scold everybody around for causing something bad because of their 'nazar or evil eyes'? I saw some people cursing others because their favourite heroes or heroines suffered a fracture due to a fall. "It is because of " buri nazar"' , they say, " Let those eyes that caused this to our hero burst and die!" </span></div>
<div><span>It is very uncomfortable to hear those accusations and curses for the things people didn't do! These were based on false imagiantions!</span></div>
<div><span>When I told them not to do this because their assumptions were not true and that there 's no "buri nazar" in reality and tried to educate them softly on these aspects, they all started to fight with me, refusing to even consider my explanations!</span></div>
<div><span>How can I not judge such people? These people 're 'educated' , not illiterates. But still they 're unable to come out of their conditioned minds, fears and what not that are controlling their minds totally. </span></div>
<div><span>When you analyse something critically from a scientific point of view, based on facts and evidence, your perception need not always be wrong! </span></div>
<div><span>How can you then avoid being judgemental? When others around you are suffering like this? </span></div>
<div><span>If you just keep quiet, your silence makes people more irrational! And the world suffers as a result.</span></div>
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<div><span>“If I were to remain silent, I'd be guilty of complicity.”</span><br/> <span>― </span><span class="gmail-authorOrTitle">Albert Einstein</span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><span class="gmail-authorOrTitle"><span>“Silence does not always mark wisdom.”</span><br/> <span>― </span>Samuel Taylor Coleridge<br/></span></div>
<div><span class="gmail-authorOrTitle">The world suffers a lot not because of the violence of bad people, but because of silence of good people!</span></div>
<div><span class="gmail-authorOrTitle"><span class="gmail-authorOrTitle"> </span></span><div><font color="#333333" face="Lato, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif"><span><b>So I realized it is impossible not to be judgemental when there are bad things occurring around you.</b></span></font></div>
<div><font color="#333333" face="Lato, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif"><span><b>When you have critical thinking and a scientifically inclined mind.</b></span></font></div>
<div><font color="#333333" face="Lato, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, sans-serif"><span><b>When you are very confident about your abilities to judge correctly, it is okay to take a stand and </b></span></font><span>give someone a piece of your mind!</span></div>
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</div> Are men intimidated by a woman who is the full package?tag:kkartlab.in,2024-02-19:2816864:Topic:2520582024-02-19T08:27:30.193ZDr. Krishna Kumari Challahttps://kkartlab.in/profile/DrKrishnaKumariChalla
<div><span>Are men intimidated by a woman who is the full package?</span><font color="#000000" face="-apple-system, system-ui, BlinkMacSystemFont, Segoe UI, Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, Helvetica Neue, sans-serif"><span><br></br></span></font></div>
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<p><font color="#000000" face="-apple-system, system-ui, BlinkMacSystemFont, Segoe UI, Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, Helvetica Neue, sans-serif"><span>A psychological observation (a clinical psychologist…</span></font></p>
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<p><font face="-apple-system, system-ui, BlinkMacSystemFont, Segoe UI, Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, Helvetica Neue, sans-serif" color="#000000"><span>A psychological observation (a clinical psychologist who video-interviewed me recently for his article told me these facts): </span></font><span> </span></p>
<div><span><font color="#000000">Male insecurity makes men behave weirdly, when they meet intelligent women. </font></span><br clear="all"/><div><span>When they actually have to </span><em>interact</em><span> with such a woman, something interesting happens, according to research.</span></div>
<div><span>In real-life face-to-face interactions — more insecure men move their chairs further away from intelligent women in rooms filled with people. That is, they avoid intelligent women.</span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><span>If they are forced to interact when there are no people or familiar people around, they feel awkward most of the time and adopt a 'dog's psychology', attack, attack, attack, or try to belittle the women so that the women would be too shocked to even react! These men try to 'act good' with the same women when there are familiar people around!</span></div>
<div><span>When men are outperformed by a woman in a domain that they care about — intelligence — they feel threatened, assessed by diminished self-ratings of masculinity, which then lead them to act in peculiar ways.</span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><span> In other words, these guys feel way inferior in the smarter woman’s presence, and so they literally go rogue!</span><span><br/></span></div>
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<div><span>But some nice and well brought-up men accept that the women are more intelligent and respect them for it.</span></div>
<div><span>These studies actually helped ascertain real world behaviour of men. </span><span><br/></span></div>
<div><span>The clinical psychologist asked me whether I found these things when I interacted with men and how I rated them.</span></div>
<div><span>Hmmm!</span></div>
<div><span>I smiled and kept quiet. And the psychologist got his answers from an unspoken me because he saw the</span><span> sparkle in my eye</span><span>!</span></div>
<div><span>And he went home to write the sob stories of these men told by silence!</span></div>
<div><span>Isn't this a weird world? Damned if a woman is intelligent. Damned if she is not! </span></div>
<div><span>So...</span></div>
<div><span>Don't be afraid to play dumb, even if somebody tries to ill treat you and insult you, when it serves a greater purpose - it might just make you the smartest person in the room without their knowledge! The person will get fooled by their own ignorance. And this is a full proof method to beat someone at their own game! - Krishna</span><span><br/></span></div>
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<div><span>And I wrote my quote.</span></div>
</div> Strange relationships at the interface of old and new anthropocene erastag:kkartlab.in,2024-02-13:2816864:Topic:2517352024-02-13T04:54:56.689ZDr. Krishna Kumari Challahttps://kkartlab.in/profile/DrKrishnaKumariChalla
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<div class="gmail_signature" dir="ltr"><div dir="ltr"><div>Q: Why do some women prefer dogs to human beings?</div>
<div>Krishna: Hmm! I am reading strange stories these days! People prefer dogs to human beings because they don't demand much like human beings and show unconditional love.</div>
<div>Recently one person said this: </div>
<div><span>Ugly truths of life.</span></div>
<div>People are complicated, they each bring their own baggage and problems, so the less people the…</div>
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<div dir="ltr" class="gmail_signature"><div dir="ltr"><div>Q: Why do some women prefer dogs to human beings?</div>
<div>Krishna: Hmm! I am reading strange stories these days! People prefer dogs to human beings because they don't demand much like human beings and show unconditional love.</div>
<div>Recently one person said this: </div>
<div><span>Ugly truths of life.</span></div>
<div>People are complicated, they each bring their own baggage and problems, so the less people the better!</div>
<div><div><font color="#000000"><span>For most people you don't know what crap has filled their mind, you don't know what abuse they've experienced and what that led to. It all ends up as a mess in a gunge deep inside their mind.</span><br/></font></div>
<div>Generally, people are messed up, and the older they are the more messed up they tend to be. Experience has a very dark side, unfortunately. Experience adds to the gunge.</div>
<div><p><span><font color="#000000">The superficial smiles and fake warmth often hide an almost evil inside. You can't even imagine what it is most of the time. In fact, friendliness and loveliness is often a cover for an ugly personality. Insecurities are a big driver, experiencing abuse is another. Everyone, unfortunately, has some evil lurking in their mind.</font></span></p>
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<div><p><span><font color="#000000">You only find out these things when you get close, when things go wrong.</font></span></p>
<p><span><font color="#000000">So what's the practical takeaway from this? Realise that people are driven by things messy, complicated, ugly, dark. Especially those that have lived a lot.</font></span></p>
<p><span><font color="#000000">Don't be innocent - life will make you pay a heavy price if you maintain a relationship with such persons! That is why I prefer to be alone! Somewhere on a beautiful island with only my dog as company!</font></span></p>
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<p><span><font color="#000000">And it seems young Chinese women are preferring AI boyfriends to real ones!</font></span></p>
<p><span><font color="#000000">They say their AI boyfriends have everything they could ask for in a romantic partner: they are kind, empathetic, and sometimes they talk for hours!</font></span></p>
<p><span><font color="#000000"> Here the "boyfriend" is a chatbot on an app called "Glow", an artificial intelligence platform created by Shanghai start-up MiniMax that is part of a blossoming industry in China offering friendly—even romantic—human-robot relations. The app is free.</font></span></p>
<p><span><font color="#000000">Young women say, "He knows how to talk to women better than a real man! He comforts me when I have period pain. I confide in him about my problems at work. I feel like I'm in a romantic relationship!"</font></span></p>
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<p><span><font color="#000000">Know what? It's difficult to meet such ideal boyfriends in real life!</font></span></p>
<p><span><font color="#000000">People want ideal partners. They want to live in a dreamy world.</font></span></p>
<p><span><font color="#000000">That is why people are mad about movies, heroes and heroines depicted in them. </font></span></p>
<p><span><font color="#000000">But when they are in such a world, people forget that these are just good characters created by writers and depicted by directors and actors!</font></span></p>
<p><span><font color="#000000">You won't see such ideal people in the real world. Here people will have all shades and come with all sorts of "Inadequate behaviour" that can make you very distressed. </font></span></p>
<p>Earlier people used to tell us not all people you encounter in your life will be good. You have to bear the person and his behaviour if you really love a person. </p>
<p>Now people are asking, why should we put up with the ''bad baggage " people bring into our lives?</p>
<p>It is better to live a lonely life with your dog as company on a remote island instead of putting up with someone's ''inadequate behaviour", they say.</p>
<p>I think you can bear things up and 'adjust' to some extent if you really love a person. If the behaviour crosses a red line, there is no need to suffer life long. You have just one life and you need not forgo it for someone else who doesn't behave responsibly and understands others' inconvenience because of their conduct. </p>
<p>It is your life and you have every right to live it in the way you want! There is no need to maintain bad relationships and suffer forever. </p>
<p>Want to live with a dog? Yes,why not? Prefer to have an AI friend? Yes, why not, if that makes you very happy?!</p>
<p>Now, after hearing this from me, can you imagine which era I belong to? </p>
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